Strong women don't hate, they collaborate
Just like many girls out there, I too believed that we were all competitors. I then realised that we were not born to compete rather taught to compete.
Girl on girl hate is the act of bashing another girls body, personality, life choices or actions. It all begins in High school, girls form clicks and bully others who they feel are not good enough to be apart of their clicks. Girls constantly judge other girls with regards to their dressing or how much make up a girl wears or the lack thereof. These girls go into the world creating enemies rather than support systems. After all, what are they competing for? To be the most "prettiest"? For the attention of men?
It is possible to admire and appreciate another girls beauty without questioning your own. Girls are so afraid to compliment other girls in fear of selling themselves short. There's so many different types of women that roam the planet, each with their own personality, body shapes and sizes, beliefs and lifestyles and that's absolutely okay.
However, it's not okay to bash another woman just because she is different. You don't have to like another woman or agree with her life choices in order to support her and defend her from misogyny. Misogyny is not something that will disappear overnight, it's been around for ages but eventually it can be eradicated provided that girls support each other instead of bringing each other down.
Sometimes it's the simple things that contribute to girl on girl hate, I've seen girls saying, "Queens don't compete with hoes". No darling, we are all Queens and us Queens don't call other girls hoes. A girl once told me that she respects girls but just not girls that act like "hoes". Where do we draw the line? Why do we call each other "hoes"? Reject or reclaim the word, don't normalise it.
It is very possible to uplift one kind of woman without bashing another kind. We are strongest when we unite. I've come across many amazing women and there's two that stand out for me, Leanne Dlamini, founder of #endgirlhate and women for women and Anjali Ranadive, someone who supports me and inspires me each and every day. We need to look up to positive role models, we need to also become positive role models.
Girl on girl hate ends with us, after all we are the ones who brought it to life. It is up to us to educate ourselves and fellow females so we can be the generation to raise unstoppable girls that become fearless leaders. I urge girls to support each other, if you see a person contributing to girl on girl hate or posting something that bashes fellow women then call them out for it, educate people to instead of belittling them. Always keep in mind that strong women don't hate, they collaborate.
- Shenay Bhodraj ( _Shenayy on Instagram)
Check out Leanee Dlamini here and Anjali Ranadive here
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